I don't doubt that a lot of people have unvoiced expectations of their partners and relationships that stem from the way their family lived. I was a pretty responsible little kid with an overinflated sense of importance attached to those responsibilities. I'm definitely the more responsible on in my marriage in a lot of respects.
What really turns me off of these books and my therapist is this attitude that you have no real say in the matter. Okay, it would be impossible for me to find a person who didn't possess some of the traits of my parents. That doesn't mean though that my husband is my mother, or whatever line of nonsense I was fed today.
Yargh. Therapist shopping is worse than car shopping.
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Re: You don't strike me as particularly immature...
Date: 2005-04-26 12:11 am (UTC)What really turns me off of these books and my therapist is this attitude that you have no real say in the matter. Okay, it would be impossible for me to find a person who didn't possess some of the traits of my parents. That doesn't mean though that my husband is my mother, or whatever line of nonsense I was fed today.
Yargh. Therapist shopping is worse than car shopping.