out of the desert

[threeplusfire]

My aunt, she is very wise. She sent me an email the other day, when I was talking about dealing with my own history. I thought some others in the wired might read it and have that 'aha' moment. It's one of those things that's so simple I didn't see it until someone put it in front of me. I never used to feel strong in dealing with things, but then I must have been somehow if I made it this far.

Amanda,
I think of grief and pain, like this.... If I loaded on a back weighing 30 pounds and carried it around all day
and night, at first I would be exhausted. But as time wore on, my muscles would get stronger, along the way, I might develop soreness, or even an injury due to the weight. But I would get stronger, and one day I would realize that I can bear the load....

Grief and pain are like that.... we learn to carry them. They don't "go away." They don't "get easier to bear", we just become accustomed to them.... It is not age or jadedness, it is strength.... You are still here, you are still moving on, you are getting stronger every day. You have family and friends who love you, and will help you when your muscles get sore, or you strain your bones. There if you stumble and fall.
Patricia

Comments

I don't know...

[bjohnson.livejournal.com]

I'll think about this. Sometimes, I think it fades. Sometimes, I think we become accustomed to it. I'll think about this.

Re: I don't know...

[tsarina.livejournal.com]

It's a concept that really works for me.