addendum

[threeplusfire]

One of the reasons why I was called a bad friend was that I did not call for weeks.

For the people that know me, I have always been like this. Weeks or months of intense contact, and then weeks or months of sporadic contact. I have always been that way. I am sad that it seems uncaring or undevoted to some people, but that is just how I am. I haven't talked to Gene but three times so far this year, but I still feel like he is one of my close friends. Melynda and I will go weeks without speaking. Kevin and I don't talk for months at a time. But when we pick up the phone, we're right back together.

I'm bad about initiating contact, I admit. I'm still working off years of shyness. I cycle through periods of social behavior and periods of reclusiveness. I don't think it is all that unusual. Is it wrong to ask others to accept that? I don't know.

Comments

[frostwalrus.livejournal.com]

It isn't wrong, I can be that way at times. Most of my friends now and accept this, but for some people, they need to be reminded that you are still there and still friends.