step up

[threeplusfire]

Some of you will say you know this. But this goes further than just knowing. it's not just about saying "Oh, I know this!". It's about DOING. It's about lifestyle. It's about every day words and actions. It's about changing the world we live in, one word at a time, one action at a time. Over and over and over again, until it sticks.

http://meallanmouse.livejournal.com/1043361.html

Yes. For heaven's sake, live what you talk.

Comments

[lizkayl.livejournal.com]

The original post is seeped in disappointment and frustration not hate. That guilt it inspires in you? I'd redirect it as anger to those that are committing the crimes. All she's doing is asking you to be a decent human being. And... you know what? She asks the same thing of women.

Worried about a street confrontation? That's what 911 is for. If you can't handle it, call in help.

It's hard for women to tell when a guy is stepping up because he's a decent human being and when he's stepping up, because he wants a reward.

Thank you for the times that you've stepped up. We appreciate it.

But the other men, who've stepped up and then expected us to reward them for it- date them, sleep with them, etc- they've made us wary. Don't blame us, blame them.

[lizkayl.livejournal.com]

The main generalization is unfortunate and paints all with a bad light. I don't like it any more than you do, but I understand why some people do it.

So often, the men who don't step up, who let harassment and assault or worse happen, or worse, are the perpetrators- they're the men they love- family or friends- they were the ones they trusted.

Telling them not to paint you with that light can sound to them like they should be able to tell who would behave like that. When you say, "not all men are like that", they hear- "You should have known better. You should have been able to tell and protected yourself better."

It's not fair and the generalizations are harsh.

[lizkayl.livejournal.com]

Also:

You're a clinic escort? Holy sht, that is brave and needed work. I am awed.