step up

[threeplusfire]

Some of you will say you know this. But this goes further than just knowing. it's not just about saying "Oh, I know this!". It's about DOING. It's about lifestyle. It's about every day words and actions. It's about changing the world we live in, one word at a time, one action at a time. Over and over and over again, until it sticks.

http://meallanmouse.livejournal.com/1043361.html

Yes. For heaven's sake, live what you talk.

Comments

[tsarina.livejournal.com]

In any other situation, I think it would immediately bring commiseration. But you're directing the conversation away from "these things happen that are bad, more men AND women need to step up to break down this culture" to "what you're saying makes me feel bad about my gender." Which I think the author of the post pretty clearly told you was not the case. You are making this very much about you, and while you are a valid valued human being with tragic experiences, that isn't what was posted.

[tsarina.livejournal.com]

I confess then that I do not understand and am at a loss as to how to bridge this disconnect.

[lizkayl.livejournal.com]

I think everyone in this discussion is in agreement, delchi was just saying that it made him feel guilty.

I was doing reading on Racefail and realized, just because you don't mean to do say or something offensive, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. How am I, not being male, supposed to know how much that offends him? Just because it doesn't offend me, doesn't make it inoffensive. You can't make someone feel one way or another.

The best thing I've found for moving past it is to apologize for the slight, validate their concern (assuming they aren't full of it, which delchi obviously isn't), and try not to do it again.

[rosathome.livejournal.com]

No, but you can change how you feel.